DEAR ABBY: New boyfriend has a hard time showing affection

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Dear Abby: I lost my husband in the middle of last summer. He has a stroke and a long-term illness with Alzheimer’s, which is horrible to me. We only have four of the best in the entire 40-year marriage.

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Over the past three years, a gentleman who is off duty will help my husband no longer do things around the house. He would talk to both of us and move on. I took care of my husband 24/7 during the last two years of his life.

I’ve been working all the time. While I lost my husband, he lost his daughter. We had a lot of carpooling and talked. I bought him a tree this Christmas (everyone in VanPool has a gift).

The day after Christmas, we celebrate together. Since then, we have been together every day. He treats me very well. My children admire him. My only hangup was because he hadn’t had a date for over 20 years, so he wasn’t very kind. Other than that, he was great to me. If I mention that I like anything, he will buy it for me.

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Would I bring a man who is hard to kiss and hug me because he shows feelings in other ways or should I keep moving forward? I have many families, so even if I can be alone, I will never be alone. – Want to know in the West

Dear, want to know: The guy you’ve met has a lot to do for him. I don’t know why he is not kind, and it seems that you are not. Please have a calm and straightforward chat with him. Telling him how amazing you think he is, but the fact that he has no physical affectionate (describing what you mean) is your problem. He may not know how or can’t give you what you need, but ending a relationship with anything that isn’t said is a shame.

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Dear Abby: I was in my 30s and was dealing with a disease that could kill me. I can dying, I don’t want any treatment. I just want to go.

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Since I was 13, I have been dealing with suicidal thoughts, depression and self-harm. The problem is my children, my husband and my close family. I don’t want to tell anyone, nor do I want to sympathize with it.

I don’t want to leave my children and husbands, but I don’t want them to see me sick or die. I don’t want them to cry. I prefer to handle it myself. Who knows? I might do it. Should I tell them what happened or let them hang up? – Challenge in Ohio

Dear Challenge: Sorry for your diagnosis. Please don’t let the person who loves you. Your husband will see you becoming weaker and sicker. Your child should be prepared in an age-appropriate way to understand the changes you will experience so that they don’t think it’s their fault.

Do everything possible to manage the disease, including talking to your doctor about your mental health history and thinking positive because you can do that. If you do this, your family will be stronger.

– Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Please contact Dear Abby at Dearabby.com or CA 90069 Po Box 69440 in Los Angeles.

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