DEAR ABBY: Elderly couple’s only child begins life without them

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Dear Abby: I am a single man without siblings. My elderly father passed away eight months ago. My mother is now in hospice care, expecting to be for weeks to months. My parents lived a long and productive life and I was proud of both of them. We’ve always been Very close. I’ve been working well since their terminal illness.

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My problem is some “trigger”. For example, I can never go to the beach again because when I come back I always remember my father’s voice welcoming me home. The worst part is when people see pictures of my childhood and say, “Your parents must love you very much.”

I Know These people mean very well, but I cannot Help grieves my bond and loses connection with my parents. I plan to seek consultation, but I will appreciate any advice on reducing the impact of these triggers. – Their son in San Diego

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Dear son: Please accept my sympathy for losing my father. You may need help dealing with the pain of losing him, as well as handling the prognosis of your mother’s sadness. When a loved one dies, there are certainly bittersweet memories. Managing them is a personal process.

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if you No Joined a sad support group and I urge you to find one. If group settings No Provide enough help to the overwhelming emotions you feel, and a licensed psychotherapist can provide more support. Some people who can certainly help your hospice can provide you with some resources. please No put off. Start now.

Dear Abby: How long do you want to give your partner a full-time job? What if the partner is helpful in other areas of the family, what does it bring in rental income from the home he owns and helps the children? I’m in trouble.

My spouse has been an adjunct professor since we met Stay behind In these 17 years of career, there is no benefit or support for our salary. We have kids now and I have worked hard for over a decade to provide a lifestyle for our families.

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Will you let your husband continue his dream of A part-time professor, or let him get one Extra Can part-time work bring more income? If he were, would you leave this person No Want to do more to help your family? – Exhausted in Pennsylvania

Dear exhausted: Will leaving your husband improve your lifestyle? You and your husband should consult with a financial advisor and discuss your situation. From what you write, your husband No Sitting around and doing nothing. He may try his best to contribute in other ways. If the number No Anyway, he may need to do more to generate income. But one word of caution: do not issue a final pass unless you are ready to follow.

– Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Please contact Dear Abby at Dearabby.com or CA 90069 Po Box 69440 in Los Angeles.

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