DEAR ABBY: Woman about to share news of her surprise pregnancy

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Dear Abby: My partner and I have been together for five years. He has two adult children. I learned two days ago that I was pregnant. When I was 43 years old, I didn’t think my child was in my future. But now that I’m pregnant, I’ll never be happy anymore. I was cautiously excited because I wasn’t sure what my partner’s reaction would be. I didn’t share my expectations with him. How soon do I need to tell him? – Pregnancy pause in New York

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Dear Pregnancy: Tell your partner immediately so you can both start planning how to integrate this new villain into your family. If his reaction was positive, it would be the beginning of a happy journey. If his reaction is negative and because the baby is expensive, discuss what this means financially, which will allow you to prepare to raise your baby on your own with his financial support.

Dear Abby: I am 17 years old and will be 18 in six months. I can’t wait to move out. I have a difficult relationship with my mother. We argue every day. She is an addict and sometimes it’s hard to talk to her. I felt that everything I did was enough for her. I feel like I’m walking on the eggshell. I plan to move out soon, but I need help with these months with her. I feel like I hardly stick to it. Please give me some advice. – Tormented Teenagers in Indiana

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Dear teenagers: I’m sorry for finding yourself stressful. Of course, you should remove yourself as soon as possible. Are there other relatives who might be willing to keep you with them until you graduate from high school and get a job? If anything, it would be ideal. If not, start talking to a trusted teacher or counselor in the school and explaining what is going on because there may be resources in your community to provide young people in troubled homes.

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Dear Abby: I’m a retired guy who unfortunately got stuck in a trap by the Internet inheritance scam and lost all my money. I’m bankrupt now. This is the worst thing that can happen to me. I had to file for bankruptcy (Chapter 13).

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Fortunately, my house was paid, but if I can’t keep up with the bankruptcy payment, I could lose my truck (my only means of transportation). I had medical problems and took a lot of medications so I had to go to the doctor’s date. The bankruptcy payment is very high, I am afraid I will not be able to afford it soon. I love retirement, now I have nothing. I don’t know what to do. What can you suggest? – Bypass in Wisconsin

Dear detour: I am sorry for your plight. It is possible to lower your Chapter 13 bankruptcy payment. If you can’t afford to hire a lawyer, please contact the Legal Aid Association or a professional unpaid lawyer and seek help. The law may vary from state to state and attorneys may be able to help you. I wish you success.

– Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Please contact Dear Abby at Dearabby.com or CA 90069 Po Box 69440 in Los Angeles.

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